We all have our off days and often times the only thing we can do is just feel sad or bad about it. When things don’t go your way, it’s easy to throw our hands up and try anything we can to escape from the emotions that we are facing. However, these emotions could actually be the catalyst for something good in your life! It might even be the motivation to start traveling the world – so trust your emotions!
Christine Hassler explores the value of your emotions in this week’s Thoughtful Thursday. Read on!
Guest Blog Post by Christine Hassler
Feeling bad doesn’t feel good. Most people that come to see me for coaching or a workshop is because they want to get out of feeling bad and start feeling good!
When we are experiencing an uncomfortable emotion, we usually want out of it…and we’ll try a variety of methods to do so. We repress it, judge it, ignore it, numb it, and avoid it. Strategies like over-eating, drinking, spending, and over-analyzing are attempts to get out of feeling bad. But they don’t work. In fact, they can make us feel even worse.
So what do we do with emotions?
First, understand that your emotions are incredibly valuable. They deserve your compassion, your attention and your patience. Your emotions are an incredible guidance system.
Second, there are two ways to shift emotion: EXPRESS THEM and RESPOND!!!
By expression I do not mean talking and talking and talking about your emotions. I’m sure you have analyzed yourself so much by now you could write an autobiographical self-help book! Stop thinking and start feeling. It feels safer to TALK about our emotions like why we are angry, who we are angry at, why we have a right to be angry, etc. But it is more HEALING to just allow your emotions to be expressed.
E-MOTION is energy in motion. It needs to move, to be expressed. You don’t have to analyze and understand it. Sometimes you just need to scream, hit a pillow, or sob with NO judgment or analysis. Give yourself permission to have an adult temper tantrum. Move your body by exercising or dancing (my favorite!). Or take that emotional energy and channel it into something creative like painting, cooking or writing. Whatever the expression is, just get it OUT. Let it MOVE.
Emotions are one of the biggest ways our Higher Self speaks to us. When we experience feelings like fear, sadness, anger, anxiety and so on, it’s a signal to pay attention! Either something outside is off or we are off inside. That’s why it is so valuable to acknowledge our feelings, express them and then respond.
I have so many people who come to work with me who are so anxious and tortured in their relationships or jobs. And my response to them is, “If you are feeling so miserable, why are you still in it??” Your emotions are your feedback system. Practice receiving the information and then responding to it! Otherwise you’ll end up just looping in the same emotion over and over and over and over. Feelings shift when we make the internal and external shifts that honor them. Speak your truth, make a choice, take dominion over your life, and change your behavior.
Anytime you have emotion, move away from the typical approach of analyzing it to death. Simplify! Honor your emotions instead of repressing and judging them.
Trust your feelings, they have amazing insight for you. Work with them rather than against them. Express and respond! Allow your emotions to put you in motion!!!
About the Author:
Christine Hassler left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at 25 to pursue a life she could be passionate about…but it did not come easily. After being inspired by her own unexpected challenges and experiences, she realized her journey was indeed her destination. In 2005, she wrote the first guide book written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s.
Today, she supports individuals as a Life Coach helping clients discover the answers to the questions: “Who Am I, What do I want, and How do I get it?” As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops to audiences around the country. She has spoken to over 10,000 college students as well as to conferences and corporations about generational diversity. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows, speaking about life issues and “Expectation Hangovers®” – a phenomenon she identified and trademarked.
Christine is the spokesperson for Zync from American Express and the key resource for their Quarterlife Program which empowers young people to take control of their finances. She also created a life balance curriculum for the Leadership Institute and is a member of Northwestern University’s Council of 100. www.christinehassler.com