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22 Sep 2010 Ash said

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Im going on a 6week holiday next year and ive done an american contiki on my own so i have no problems going solo but this time i have a friend that wants to come and im not sure if its a good idea.

I dont want there to be issues if we both want to do different things..

Anybody thats traveled with friends got any advice?
  • 22 Sep 2010 RJ1817 said

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    you’ll be fine with or without a friend!

    Chances are if you like doing different things, they’ll be other people that like doing what you like, and what your friend likes so neither of you will be alone

  • 22 Sep 2010 AmandaW said

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    I did a tour with myboyfriend and found it great. If I was tired and he wanted to do something there was someone/or a group of people that he could go with and vice Versa! Worked well!

  • 23 Sep 2010 Krystal said

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    I went with a my cousin I probably on saw him twice out of the whole time on tour

  • 23 Sep 2010 Kate said

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    I went by myself and I’m really glad that I did because it forced me to mingle and make friends really quickly which I might not have done to the same extend had I travelled with someone.
    That said, there were times it would have been nice to have had someone you know with you.

    There were lots of friends travelling together on my trip as well as lots of solos so theres always a good mix and you can mingle as much as you like as well as spend time together.

    My advice is, if you go together, dont stick together like glue (it sounds like you wont anyway but make sure you’re both on the same page). A lot of the friends that went together stuck together for the trip and I think they missed out a bit. Also it made them really hard to get to know because they always sat together on the bus or roomed together, and this is the best way to get to know people because its longer period of times and more one on one. So my advice would be to just mix it up on the bus and dont always room together.

  • 2 Oct 2010 Karina said

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    I went with 2 friends and it was where one of those friendships ended. We had been a bit rocky before we left and this just seemed the straw which broke the camel’s back.

    My other friend and i – well it strengthed our friendship.

    I made 2 more awesome friends on tour and one of them and i are doing a US tour next year. She is from the Netherlands and i am from Australia so it’ll be wonderful to see her again after 2 years :-)

  • 5 Oct 2010 ChrisSoll48 said

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    Ash,
    If you’ve travelled alone successfully before you may miss the freedom that comes with being able to do whatever you want, when you want it. If you bring a friend you will need to consider their preferences/needs and try not to disappoint and argue with them. Especially with girls I know if can be harder to be upfront with any negative feelings compared to guys who will be easily just insult each other. I guess it depends on your friendship. Is it the type of person who will be understanding if you want to sleep later or do something different than them? Or will they be mad if you don’t agree? Also does one of you take longer to ‘get ready’ than the other? This can lead to frustrations if you are waiting for someone to leave. I’ve travelled alone and with friends and found it be better travelling alone. But maybe I’m just selfish Smiler<!--graemlin::)-->. If you know you don’t need a friend to have fun, there isn’t a need to bring one!

  • 8 Oct 2010 Explorer1128723 said

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    I loved going by myself the dynamic with all your new friends was just so much better than people who had to worry about what their friend they came on tour with, was thinking or wanted. I would NOT do it with a friend.

    If I had a boyfriend I think I would do it with him or not at all. Its really not something you can do or enjoy to the fullest if you have a patner at home that you are missing.Plus the girls that had b/f(at hm) on my tour ended up being the biggest DT’s, or being the boring ones who only came out a couple of times and did’nt really interact much with the whole group (none of our guys had g/f at home.)

    Its all about having fun and letting loose so elimanting any hassel is the way to go, I say! Smiler<!--graemlin::)-->

  • 24 Oct 2010 kimmy said

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    i went with a friend and was worried about disagreeing on what todo and not do, but found it was easy to find others to go to things with or to stay behind with

  • 28 Oct 2010 liselise said

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    I went with three friends. At first I was a bit worried because I wasn’t very close to two of the girls and I thought they might all go and leave me out. But it was fine. Actually it was great, my friendships with those two girls got so much stronger. We were also worried that we’d all get on each others nerves having to stay together all the time but it’s not like that at all! There were loads of activities that they wanted to do that i didn’t and vice versa so we split up and went and did our own things. I think if you go with friends you just need to make sure that you get out there and socialise with the rest of your group, not just stay in a pack. And don’t worry too much about what your friend wants to do. If they want to do something that you don’t, don’t just do it anyway because chances are there’ll be someone else on your tour who’ll be doing it.
    There were nights on tour that I went out without my friends because they didn’t feel like it or we’d go to different places. And it definitely didn’t have a negative impact on our friendships. I think going with friends can be lots of fun, particularly for a first big holiday. At the time I was fairly shy too and having my friends there definitely helped me to be more outgoing.

    But in about a month I’m off on my first solo tour! I’m nervous but really excited to be doing something completely for me. I think at the end of the day it’s going to come down to personal preferences and also the personalities of your friends. I definitely couldn’t have done it with friends that were clingy and wanted to do exactly what I was doing.

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