Gone are the days of post break-up ice cream eating and hoping you don’t bump into your ex at the supermarket. Now, we're proving that the best way to get over someone isn't to get under some else; it's skipping the country entirely.
Sounds dramatic perhaps, but over the last decade traveling after a split has become pretty much the norm. One reason for this is of course is that us millennials LOVE to travel, and unlike our parents we’re not saving our pennies for a dream trip post-retirement. Instead, we want to do it now.
So actually, why not hit the road when the going gets tough and your boo breaks you heart?
I went on Contiki’s USA Grand Southern trip ~solo~ a few months after a breakup, hoping to spark something and find a new passion. I was not alone. The first day on the coach, a group of five of us (four girls and one guy), dubbed ourselves the ‘Broken Hearts Club’ after sharing our varyingly miserable stories of lost love and lucky escapes. Yep, we were all there for the same reason, to forget about our relationship woes by seeing the world.
Could this have been just been a happy coincidence? Unlikely. A study by Booking.com revealed that it doesn’t just seem like more people are booking a group holiday after break-up, they are. In fact, 1 in 10 Aussies have said a “separation holiday” was their most recent or upcoming trip.
The exact reasons we think a trip as a single pringle will benefit us differ though…
67% think it will signal a new beginning
47% just want to let go of their old life
And 36% are ready to enjoy the benefits of being single again
"Both my Contikis were heartbreak bookings, of wanting to fall back in love with myself through a constant process of discovery; of chasing a different sun and new experiences each day." - Natalie H, my Broken Hearts Club comrade.
Another reason post break up trips may have become the cure for a broken heart, is the ‘show him what he’s missing out on’ factor. How many of us delete and block our exes on ALL our social media channels? Hmmm? Didn’t think so. We usually leave one available so we can show off how wonderful our life without them is, now we’re cruising around the Greek Islands at sunset. A humble brag on social media may seem childish, but evidence would suggest it’s quite cathartic to the dumpee, whether the dumper sees it or not.
And lastly, what role has pop culture played in all this? Thanks to movies like Wild and books such as Eat, Pray, Love*, post break up travel has almost been romanticised into a rite of passage. Hell, even the comedy Forgetting Sarah Marshall is essentially a story about traveling to find a new love and get revenge on your ex (with way better jokes).
*Full disclosure, ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ is my break up book and I won’t hear a word against it.
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